CUPIDITY/Hayley and Michael DiMarco

The title of this book is actually Cupidity:50 Stupid Things People Do For Love And How To Avoid Them. Despite the long title, this book is in reality a short and quick read. Only 244 pages in a font of comfortable reading size, Cupidity is not far from self-help relationship and dating books you see in bookstores. It discusses 50 acts of “Cupidity” which make us stupid when it comes to love and relationships. It contains the ever-known-but-seldom-applied principles in relationships which is to use the head and not the heart. It is a call to singles and couples alike to be more sensible when it comes to matters of the heart. Sounds easy when read (and written), but is in reality a struggle. Because if all of us are sensible in handling relationships, particularly romantic relationships, there wouldn’t be a proliferation of books of this kind in bookstores, right?

The first relationship-themed book I ever read was Joshua Harris’s I Kissed Dating Goodbye which I read while I was in college. I must say that it had a huge influence on the way I viewed romantic relationships because I had my very first boyfriend when I was already 29, and without any regrets at that! (This is a topic which I would very much love to talk about but not in this forum. Maybe in my personal blog?) Suffice it to say that I am very much careful when it comes to heart-y matters, and now that I am set to be married this year, I figured it would be best to read a book on this subject. It was such a wonderful coincidence that last year Tricia hosted a giveaway on her blog for this book, and when I won, I immediately chose this book as my prize. Thanks again, Tricia! 🙂

I had planned to read this book this love month to be more in tune with the season, and I immensely enjoyed it. Aside from its very intriguing title and attractive cover, the conversational tone of the book has made it easier to read and understand, not to mention the unusual red font. Although some of the principles discussed in Cupidity are not anymore new to me (some are also discussed in I Kissed Dating Goodbye), it still is wonderful to know that my beliefs are being confirmed by another set of authors.

love is not a feeling.

 Reading Cupidity is not a bore. More so because  it contains personal experiences and confessions from the authors themselves that makes it realistic and close to home. It is not the preachy, judgmental, take-out-that-speck-in-your-eye type of book, but rebukes and admonishes in a compassionate, redeeming and biblically sound manner. The book also contains practical tips and instructions to better apply the principles discussed in the book.

He said, she said. 🙂

 Cupidity is not far from a he-said, she-said type of book, nor from Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, but more extensive and best of all, biblical. From where can we learn the most effective and meaningful way to love than from the Bible, right? Lest some of you who are single will say that this book may not be relevant to you, I strongly disagree. Because Cupidity is for the single and married alike, and it does not matter whether you don’t plan of getting married soon or have given up on love altogether. This book is simply about love and how to express it in a truly God-honoring way.

I have learned a lot from Cupidity and I fervently pray that I will be able to live its truths until and even after the time I get married.

“Just because Oprah said it, that doesn’t make it true. “(p. 241 )


5 stars.

5/50 2012 Goodreads Reading Goal.

1/2 Required Reading: February

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